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To the Editor:<\/strong><\/p>\n Re \u201cLess Marriage, Less Sex, Less Agreement<\/a>,\u201d by Nicholas Kristof (column, Could 30):<\/p>\n Girls\u2019s discontent with marriage isn’t new; it simply turned extra apparent as a result of the provision of each contraception and abortion freed girls to precise their discontent by both not marrying or not remarrying.<\/p>\n Just lately the variety of girls who’re selecting to not marry has reached a stage that’s alarming to those that turn into anxious when the facility of conventional hierarchies weakens.<\/p>\n So it\u2019s not shocking {that a} distinguished function of the MAGA motion is an effort to bully girls again into dependency by appointing Supreme Courtroom judges keen to revoke their entry to abortion and maybe additionally contraception.<\/p>\n This bullying will get dressed up in non secular rhetoric that ignores the plain fact that our freedom of faith should at all times embody freedom from others\u2019 non secular convictions.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n The one approach to have a satisfying marriage is for each companions to need to be in it. Mr. Kristof is true to emphasise the necessity for males and marriage to vary, not for ladies to lose the power to decide on what sort of life they need.<\/p>\n Susan Stewart To the Editor:<\/strong><\/p>\n I share in Nicholas Kristof\u2019s lament that our society is more and more cynical about romance and marriage, and I used to be upset to learn that so many ladies consider that males are merely incapable of participating in a joyful and equal partnership. Is my great husband actually such a rarity?<\/p>\n In our 15-year relationship, I’ve by no means as soon as questioned the worth of our dedication. He’s my companion, confidant and cheerleader. We handle our family as a crew, divvy up duties and make joint selections about our son\u2019s care. We discuss every part below the solar. Over dinner, we share what we\u2019re grateful for.<\/p>\n Actually, it’s true that some males are apathetic, others violent and merciless, and ladies deserve and may demand higher. However there are actual winners on the market, too. Males who present up, do the dishes, hug their kids and love their companions.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n I hope future generations are usually not so jaded as to dismiss the potential of soul mates, of all sexual orientations. I hope that sometime, somebody someplace provides my son an opportunity to point out that he’s candy, honest and supportive, identical to his dad.<\/p>\n Olivia V. Sanderfoot To the Editor:<\/strong><\/p>\n Somewhat than repeated paeans to conventional marriage and monogamy and constant bemoaning of recent society\u2019s inexorable transfer away from each, society wants new myths, fashions and establishments to assist and applaud fashionable, brave and pioneering women and men who select fulfilling lives and not using a everlasting lifetime accomplice.<\/p>\n Nicholas Kristof may think about using his appreciable intelligence and creativeness in service of this want.<\/p>\n Roliff Purrington To the Editor:<\/strong><\/p>\n Re \u201cAmerica\u2019s Military Is Not Prepared for War \u2014 or Peace<\/a>,\u201d by Roger Wicker (Opinion visitor essay, nytimes.com, Could 29):<\/p>\n Senator Wicker\u2019s proposal to plow a whole bunch of billions of {dollars} right into a lavishly funded high-tech arms competitors with China over the following few years is deeply misguided. It might make a devastating struggle between two nuclear-armed superpowers extra probably even because it diverts funds from different pressing nationwide wants.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n As I famous in a paper<\/a> I wrote for the Brown College Prices of Struggle Mission final yr, the US spends roughly twice as a lot on its navy as China does, and it far outpaces the nation in numbers of nuclear weapons, superior fight plane, transport methods and whole naval firepower.<\/p>\n The wild card is the race for hypersonic weapons and autonomous weapons methods managed through synthetic intelligence, the place relative U.S. and Chinese language capabilities are tougher to find out. However that is exactly why dialogue about whether or not and deploy these harmful new applied sciences is most urgently essential.<\/p>\n Cooperation between the US and China might be important if we’re to deal with probably the most urgent threats to our frequent future, from local weather change to pandemics to world inequality. Doubling down on a militarized coverage towards Beijing is the worst potential approach to maintain the peace within the many years to return.<\/p>\n William D. Hartung
Broomfield, Colo.
The author is a retired marriage and household therapist and a co-author of \u201cFlying Solo: Single Girls in Midlife.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n
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The author is a senior analysis fellow on the Quincy Institute for Accountable Statecraft.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n